Tuesday, 12 August 2014

Why the droop when I wear stockings?

Photography by Peter Soulis Model Ellie Lemons Stylist My Lingerie Addiction

For those hoping to read something a bit dirty, a bit seedy, I'm sorry to say it but I just love a good innuendo title! This blog gives me so many opportunities to play with words as I see fit, so if that's what you were hoping to read, you better log out now. I'm only going to talk about stockings and why they sometimes droop.

After the last blog post I wrote on stockings versus stay ups I was asked a question on where you could buy stockings with an angled peak. At first I didn't quite understand what this client meant. I'd heard and owned ones with contrast colour welts, key hole features and signatures. But angled peak stockings? Why didn't I own these already?! I thought I knew all there was to know about lingerie and the accessories that go along with them. I asked a little bit more about the style she was trying to hunt down, and then she showed me an image similar to the following... (hers was more exaggerated though)

To those who don't wear stockings and suspender on a semi regular basis, this is an image of a normal pair of stockings that have been pulled up tight creating a stretch and droop effect.. Her boyfriend had shown her this image and now wanted to buy herself a pair. She had gone to Myer, David Jones, numerous lingerie stores, on the hunt for a pair just like it. The problem was that any staff she showed this image to told her, they didn't stock angled top stockings and perhaps should try another store...

With time, movement, over stretching and general wear: the fabric of the hosiery can create an angled peak  pull where attached to the suspender hooks. This client had gone into multiple stores where the staff knew nothing about stockings for suspenders and they too had presumed that the photo she'd shown them were of a special style that they just didn't sell there... "Perhaps you should look online?"

I started to think about all the things I presume every one knows, as people I usually talk lingerie with, work within the industry and are very passionate about their field. I often forget that the whole purpose of the blog is to introduce lingerie to people who are wanting to learn a little bit more in an easy and non judgmental way. I had to tread carefully and back it up with facts.

I had to do quite a bit of talking to make her start to consider that the droop effect came from wearing a normal stocking itself. I showed her items she could buy but she was convinced they weren't right. I eventually had to flash her my stocking tops in order to try make her understand what wearing stockings daily can do to them.

"Yes, exactly like those ones!"
"They are the ones I just showed you...."
"But the ones you showed me weren't angled! They were straight!"
"They are exactly the same ones that I am wearing but I've worn them all day. For ten hours and pulled my suspender straps tight. They've just started to droop now."

She still wasn't fully convinced that I was right and she was wrong. She decided to keep searching the world for these elusive angle topped stockings her boyfriend had shown her... Good luck is all I could say as I helped her purchase the rest of her goodies.

For the lingerie and stocking enthusiasts out there who know of these mythical, angled top stockings, please send through a link so we can help this girl out!

What stocking brands do you wear?

Sunday, 3 August 2014

Why rules are meant to be broken

My Aubade 'Sophia Glamour' Balconette and suspender short with stockings

As everyone knows, women are forever changing their minds.
"You told me you had to buy the red dress to wear TONIGHT! Why aren't you wearing it?!"
"Well I changed my mind didn't I?! I wasn't in the mood for red... Actually now that you mention it, maybe I will try it on again..."

I often feel the same when I spout out my lingerie rules, regulations and posts like they're fact. The truth is, it's just my opinion, at the time. I change my mind and preferences as often as I do my lingerie, so don't judge my rants as facts. It's just a way of me venting as well as educating. It's called a blog for a reason.

People who know me within the industry will hear me talk about wearing only stockings (or nylons) with your suspenders. But truth be known, I often wear stay ups with mine! Lingerie blasphemy I know. Yes I teach the way it should be, but hey, life isn't always like that. Rules are meant to be broken.

My Bordelle Bodysuit with suspenders and stockings

In winter you will always find me wearing either a corset, waist cincher or suspender belt set. Not just because I love to wear them but I need to layer up my lingerie in order to keep warm. I only wear dresses and never pants, so the cold winter weather means I have to wear hosiery in order to keep my legs warm. And I don't like to wear pantyhose...

When I wear stockings and suspenders under my shorter length dresses I always find I end up flashing the double layer tops and a dash of skin as the stockings start to droop. I get unwanted attention and this is not what I want. So with the length of dress I choose to wear I opt for stay ups in order to hide the fact I am not wearing a full coverage opaque pantyhose. I still attach them to my suspender belts as there's not many brands I trust to stay up after multiple washes and wears. (I have had them fall down awkwardly a few too many times for me to have complete faith.)

My Ambra Stay ups worn with black Swarovski crystal hand beaded Stella McCartney set

With the stay ups I wear you can still attach them to a suspender belt, though obviously a little fiddlier to do due to the silicone backing. But it means that I can sit them higher on my leg and they remain straight and never have the droop factor that stockings do with wear.

When recommending stockings to clients I often opt for sheer 15 denier for a dressy look and often just in a skin tone in order to blend with the leg rather than highlight it. However my daily winter wear is Ambras Opaque no show stay ups in 70 denier. Heavy weight, silky feel and the perfect plain top look. I pull them up higher than I should and I clip them to my suspenders just in case. Though I've found for about the first 5 wears it's still secure enough to wear them only as a stay up. They are hypoallergenic and perfect for my super sensitive skin. Most stay ups leave me with welts after the first wear. Even after washing them first.

Opaques last longer, keep my legs warmer and I prefer the more casual approach to my lingerie rather than dressing it up too obviously as a daily look. It's all about comfort for me. And having sensitive skin also I have found I react badly to a lot of stay ups on the market however this one has become my savior. I have recommended them to many people and now I share my secret with you. I make a lingerie mistake every day. I don't always wear traditional stockings with my suspender belts. I more often than not, wear stay ups attached... Don't judge me.

Black and White Photography team
Photographer: Peter Soulis
Model: Ellie Lemons
Hair and Makeup: Campbell Ritchie
Lingerie stylist: My Lingerie Addiction

Red photography team
Photographer: Vlad Savin
Model: Keira Bingham
Hair and Makeup: Amy Kenny
Stylist: My Lingerie Addiction

What are your favourite stocking or stay up brands?

Saturday, 5 July 2014


  As the wind blows away the truth
That has polluted my breath for so long
The air around me
becomes clearer  

Somehow life had become stilted
All the clocks had stopped ticking 
Time had slowed 
and nothing at all 
had moved on

I had waited until my heart had stopped beating
Till my eyes had stopped seeing
And I heard nothing of what anyone yelled my way

Then fates breeze started blowing
With a force that knocked me down
It blew me off the course
 I thought was carved in stone

The lights suddenly became brighter
and heights I yearned for
became so much closer
Nothing was what I expected 
yet everything was what I wanted

And all I needed to do 
was blow the past away

Blow it away 
with a breeze between the trees
with a gust between the needs
Blow away the doubts that had been seeds
The lust that had been greed
The need no longer me...

I waited until I was ready
Until it was my time
and now 
this blow is mine 

-My Lingerie Addiction

My life hasn't been a breeze for over a year now and time is something I struggle to keep a check on. I adore what I do for a living but when you are working two jobs within an industry you are highly passionate about, it makes it hard to have what I call a life

Recently I took a trip to the country side with friends for a much needed escape. As always I took along a bag full of lingerie.  Each time I think I will take a break from my work for awhile, somehow it draws me back in. Not because I need to be that involved but I find once I relax I automatically become more inspired to work harder. I guess it is my calling.

The above photos are all untouched shots I took of my Pleasure State Couture "Tiara" pleated chemise. Every time the wind blew, the piece took on a completely different look. I loved the way the pleats would fall and float as the winds grew stronger. It inspired the shots and it created the poem. Lingerie has become my muse...

So let me ask you, what inspires you to be creative?

Wednesday, 4 June 2014

Lingerie and the single girl

Aubade 'Endormie' Chemise

I'm going to let you in on a little secret... I am single and have been for awhile (yes hard to believe for someone with a lingerie addiction). My friends always tell me, "You'll have a boyfriend in no time if only they knew what you did for a living!" But the truth is actually quite the opposite. Through time and bad media exposure, the word lingerie has been intrinsically linked to sex. And if you work in the lingerie industry, it ultimately means to men, that I'm easy and I want to sleep with them. Because hey, isnt that why I wore stockings and suspenders on our first date? (not that I wear them every day or anything like that...)

This becomes an issue for me when a potential mate decides its ok to ask upon first meeting me, "So what lingerie are you wearing today?" (as an image builds in their head). It puts me off telling men what I do for a living. But the lingerie world is my life, my passion, and has been my career for fourteen years. How could I have an honest conversation with someone if Im not to mention what my life is about and what I'm ultimately working towards...

Bordelle Gia Bra and Crystal Heart Suspender Skirt

Women also seem to have forged the same link between lingerie and sex and I hear far too many female clients say, "Why would I wear or buy nice lingerie? I don't have a boyfriend!" Well neither do I, but I wear beautiful lingerie every day for no one but myself. I feel good when I wear it and I won't stop just because no one else gets to see it. 

Yes lingerie is the last remnant of modesty before taking things further with a lover, hence it can be seen as an item of lust by some. But its also the garment that protects as well as supports your body. Its the first piece of fabric you step into when you get dressed in the morning. So why is lingerie seen to be about the other person?

Being single doesn't mean you start wearing your old striped undies and beige T-shirt bras. Or that when you get a new partner suddenly your 'frivoulous lingerie' drawer gets opened and you start to wear your matching sets again. When we dress up for him we usually put on an outfit that we feel sexiest in. More confident in. More beautiful in. So why cant we do this for ourselves? We're the judgmental ones... Not them.

La Perla Jean Paul Gaultier Bra with 'Fiebre De Amor' fringe high waist bottom

We women dress up in order to impress the people around us. We over analyze our appearance and constantly compare ourselves to others. We look in the mirror far more often than males do. So why don't we start first thing in the morning by putting on a beautiful lingerie set just for ourselves and look in the mirror with a cheeky smile, knowing that no one will get the privilege of seeing what you're seeing. Spend the day with that air of confidence and no one need know why.

Photographs from a recent shoot I did with this wonderful team

Photographer: Vlad Savin Photography
Model: Keira Brigham Model
Stylist: My Lingerie Addiction
Make-up and Hair: Amy Kenny Makeup Artist & Hairstylist

Do you save your good lingerie for when someone else is going to see it? Or do you wear it for yourself?

Saturday, 26 April 2014

Lingerie Addicts Anonymous

My Prelude shot by Nat Rowe

I recently started a small support group called Lingerie Addicts Anonymous or as I like to call us #LAA. Once a week, lingerie addicts from around Melbourne gather to chat about the lingerie we sell, own or desire. We all have something in common. A now not so secret addiction to lingerie.

When I first talked about starting this group, I couldn't imagine there would be so many interested in joining in the conversation. I felt Australia was so out of the lingerie loop that I pictured these events being based around me showing myself my latest lingerie purchases in front of the mirror.

But as I blogged, Tweeted and Instagrammed My Lingerie Addiction, I decided this group was actually a worthwhile gathering. Australia had much more lingerie interest than when I first started the blog. The intrigue was growing.

My Maison Close zip bra
Women all over Australia were putting their hands up and admitting to being lingerie addicts and curious about what our gatherings were about. Since we're only one month into the group, I haven't talked about it in detail or put a call out to people who may be interested, but now I feel it's time. So let me tell you a little bit about LAA.

We are a group of women of varying ages and backgrounds. Some of us work in the industry as store owners, designers, fitters or models and others are pure lingerie buying enthusiasts. We aren't like alcoholics anonymous where we take you through the 12 steps to help beat your addiction. Instead, we help enable it!

We encourage conversations about better promoting lingerie for industry people and smarted ways of buying, for lingerie shoppers. We embrace wearing lingerie for yourself not for anyone else. We do a show and tell of our latest or favorite purchases. We help you find items that are on your high desire list. We connect you to people you may want to meet and converse with.

Everyone (female only I'm sorry) is welcomed if you have an interest in lingerie or want to learn more, but if bad behavior or negativity is displayed, you will not be notified of the next venue we meet at. If you don't know any of the group members and turn up at the designated venue, the good thing is we are an easy bunch to spot! A group of women all wearing lingerie as semi outerwear. Be it a harness, a bit of a stocking top showing under a skirt or a sheer top with a corset underneath. You cannot miss us.We are all clearly lingerie addicts.

My BelleChasse Bodysuit
So if you are a Melbourne based female and would like to chat about lingerie with a group of like minded enthusiasts, please contact me via email at mylingerieaddiction@gmail.com.

Do you have any questions about My Lingerie Addiction and the new founded group Lingerie Addicts Anonymous? 

Sunday, 13 April 2014

I AM Beyonce!

As I dance around my house every morning, listening to the radio in order to wake up, I like to think I am Beyonce. I have the dance moves down pat (well in my sleepy state of mind I do), I have a booty I like to shake but most of all, I have the same lingerie taste that Queen B has. Perhaps I am Beyonce...

Earlier this year at the Grammys we saw this award winning artist wear a mix of two of my favourite labels of all time, La Perla and Nichole De Carle. Both brands have a style completely their own, but when you combine the two, it equals pure lingerie magic.


Nichole De Carle bodysuit with La Perla Cage vest

The outfit Beyonce wore was La Perla Black Label's Cage vest worn over a specially tailored version of Nichole De Carle's Onyx Tuxedo Bodysuit. Both pieces are now on my must have list. I'm just waiting to save a little more money...You know how it is. Lingerie lust = "I can't afford to eat this week"

Over the many years of being a lingerie addict, I have amassed a huge collection of designer lingerie, especially La Perla, and now I have started on Nichole De Carle. Last year I was fortunate enough to meet with the namesake designer in Europe and chat lingerie over coffee. For me it was like a dream. Meeting with a true original creative, who understands fashion and doesn't follow trends; she creates them. Nichole has a style all her own and the way she talked about her passion for design in lingerie was truly inspiring. To anyone else, I guess it was like meeting Beyonce herself.

From Lingerie Insight
I don't mind spending money on lingerie I class as collectable. I love to buy the highly unusual, high fashion items that I consider to be works of art. Sometimes they appear styled as outerwear but more often than not, they are strictly for underneath garments and only for myself to truly enjoy. But seeing these items in the public eye, like in video clips, makes me think again... How far can I push these lingerie as outerwear boundaries? If Beyonce can do it, why cant I?

The bra featured above is part of a La Perla set I just had to own. The fringing is detachable, the hi waist knickers delectable and seeing it worn by Beyonce herself made it even more desirable. I wasn't sure how easy this set would be to wear but it had to be part of my collection.

The bra has already been worn three times, which is impressive for me! Once by a model in my most recent shoot and twice by me. I decided to wear it under a cropped white chantilly lace top with a high waist full skirt to Melbourne Fashion week and then just as a bra to my burlesque class! Truly versatile!

A Lingerie Affair 
Photographer: Vlad Savin
Model: Keira Brigham
Stylist: My Lingerie Addiction
Make-up and Hair: Amy Kenny 

Some of the lingeire I own is just too beautiful not to show off as the high fashion pieces they are. I just need to figure out some more creative ways to wear them as outerwear... Thats a full post in itself! 

What do you think of lingerie in video clips featured as outwear?

Wednesday, 12 March 2014

The Fruit that is Passion

Hopeless Lingerie
Bump and grind, meet and mingle, that's what Passion Fruits name sake event was about last month. I was lucky enough to be invited along to the Pre Valentines party hosted by the brawn and brains behind this seductive store, Michelle Temminghoff.  Lingerie fans had the opportunity to talk with other enthusiasts, watch burlesque dancers, mingle with lingerie designers, pose for photographers and of course, compare the lingerie they were all wearing!

I bumped into familiar faces, talked with other lingerie industry people and met a whole group of new 'lingerie' friends. An event like this gives us an excuse to dress up out of the normal realm and up the sexiness level; outside of the bedroom. When else is it pretty much a stated dress code to wear lingerie as outerwear? How could I not attend...

For those who aren't familiar with this store you are about to learn pretty fast who they are and why they have survived the years in this tough retail climate. Passion Fruit is a female orientated sensuality store located at 404 Bridge Road, Richmond (Melbourne Australia). This is a store I have been frequenting for many years and have found it to be a secret treasure trove of lingerie, not to mention books, toys and anything else a woman could secretly desire.
Only recently did this well known store have a revamp and saw the look and overall appeal change completely. No longer was it a hidden away little gem, dark and moody, it was now a high end 'Look at me' store that demanded your attention as you walked passed. I had friends ask me if I had seen the 'new' lingerie store that had opened up on Bridge Road... "Oh you mean Passion Fruit. I've been shopping there for years." "WHAT?!"

Fraulein Kink
Inside the store previously, the insanely desirable high end lingerie labels had been tucked away up the back. Hopeless was pressed up against Shirleys of Hollywood. Lascivious was squished next to Leg Avenue. They had a bit of everything, and that surprised me from a small singular store like this. But that is why I loved it there! I loved going through the racks and discovering lingerie like I was on a treasure hunt. They stocked Fraulein Kink for goodness sake! I had never seen this phenomenal label in person and I wanted it needed it!

Over the years I have purchased from Passion Fruit some of my favorite pieces by Bordelle, Hopeless, Carol Malony, Maison Close and more. The service here has always been beyond helpful and comfortable and this is why the store works. You can browse in silence if you choose to but if you want to talk, you can have a completely open conversation about lingerie or the goodies that hide beyond the front room....

This event took everyone outside of their comfort zone and the champagne helped inhibitions disappear as honest conversations took place with anyne who was standing next to you. It was a meeting of minds and the start of quite a few new friendships!

Here is what took place that night


Michelle Temminghoff
Lady Bellentina and crew

Made by Niki

I look forward to another of their events and finally deciding what my next purchase should be... Lascivious, Made by Niki or Fraulein Kink?? Help me decide!!

For up to date information you can find me here on Instagram
Would you like to attend the next party with me?